Relationships

I just had a really long and fruitful conversation about relationships with my friend. We talked about highschool, meeting friends, loniness, and much much more. This article will basically go over what we talked about and what we learned about during the call.

So to start this off I want to say that I’m not a very sociable person (or at least I wouldn’t categorize myself as one (however this might be contradictory later on)). The reason that I think that is because honestly I don’t got many friends. Now this possibly could be due to my past. When I was in Elementary School I was very similar to how I am today. I would basically just go to school and kinda just focus on that while doing some small extra stuff on the side. I really was just really friends with (I won’t name them here so I’m giving them fake names) Chris and Alex and would play with them every reccess. Initially we just played soccer back and forth between eachother, however at some point they started to play tetherball. All the “cool” kids would do this. I felt reluctant to do this (this is actually tbh kinda similar to me today) and as such tried to get them to play with me. However I eventually gave inand started to play tetherball. I realized that I loved it. In the beginning I was really bad and had to learn everything. However as time went on I actually got really good. I wasn’t the tallest at the time, but I could jump pretty high and had a good hit. I would play after school all the time and it was really nice. I continued to then play all the time, however by the end of 5th grade no one really played any more and there was no one left to beat. By the beginning of 6th grade I was basically the same, but Chris and Alex started to move. I felt scared because they were moving to a table to a group of people who I thought were rude and mean: I won’t name them here, but I’ll call the main guy Zach. Anyways eventually since I really like Chris and Alex I decided to move with them. This happened around the middle to end of 6th grade. Initially everyone really liked me and was kind. However Zach started to realize that they could just make fun of me. So they did, everyone at the table. I know am starting to understand that this was the beginning of bullying. Anyways we would go day-to-day kinda just following whatever Zach said. Don’t get me wrong it actually was fun, however even though I didn’t realize it at the time this was a terrible idea.

Then I got into 7th grade and you know things started to happen. I started to really grow up and understand more things. By this time I believe I was actually on a robotics team, however due to the nature of the group of kids I hung out with I didn’t want to share this. Anyways none of the details really matter here except this year was the first year I really ever got a real detention. Now because I was hanging out with this bad group of kids I would start to push the boundaries (which I actually think was a good thing). The bad part was the “bullying” (even though looking back on it, it could be a very important learning resource). By 8th grade I had changed. I was somewhat popular, basically everyone knew me. I was like a class clown, but kinda cool I guess. Anyways it was great, there are some other details that I will leave out, but honestly I was very happy at this time. This year I got suspended twice. I could go on and on about how I thought the detentions and such were unjust, however I won’t. I got suspended due to these detentions. At home I was going through some really hard stuff, I won’t give the details. However by this point I was pretty annoyed and I was kinda rude to people. I don’t really think people liked me anymore. Also Zach, yeah, that group kinda fell out.

The next year was my freshman year. It kinda felt quite (at least at school). I’ve got some stories I will save for another day. However at school I wasn’t really making friends. I realized that I was kinda not that social. I did talk to some people, but the people that I talked to I really didn’t connect with. I had some big projects and ambitions I worked on this year. However even by the year after that I never really got to the part of doing the work. I realize that maybe part of the reason why I didn’t make that many friends was because all my classes were kind of all secluded from where the majority of people were. This meant that I hung out with the same around 80 sort of kids in each class. I had some classes where I would have some great conversations with the teachers and the kids, but I never really took notice (however I should have). Anyways now it’s this year and I’m feeling lonely (sort of). I’ve got a couple of friends that I hang out with (possibly because I’m too exclusive with who I chose to hang out with, which I have been TOLD to do), but I feel kinda bored with it.

Anyways it’s getting late so I’ve gotta wrap this up and talk about the main point of the entire article rq. We basically just went over why I didn’t have many friends and what I could do to solve the issue. He explained what he thought. He said that it was God, basically God chose and continues to choose the people that you are meant to be with. However I explained again that that is likely depicted by the people who you sit next to. So God influences the seating chart? No. (Maybe God does have a role in those friendships, he very likely does, but that’s a story and article for another time) What he said I should do is do more clubs and diversify more. He argued that you can’t really make friends just in school (which is what I had mainly done before) as you don’t have time to talk to them as you’re doing your work. He said that I should go into clubs and such to meet them. As of right now I do do a club, the Robotics Club, in fact it’s everyday. However it’s just my team there. So what we decided that was best was just for me to take some of my time out of there and make it more focused. I should focus the rest of my time to other clubs and hobbies such as possibly speech and debate or jump squad.

Anyways, thanks for listening if you did.